Tuesday, December 2, 2008

And we're back

I hope everyone had a lovely Thanksgiving. Mine did not disappoint in any way, thank you very much.

Best part was the weekend, went back to Ann Arbor to see many of the friends that have trickled away over the years. Friday night was possibly the funnest night I've had all year (nothing personal to anyone I've dated who might be reading this). It was the full laughing until you couldn't breathe kind of party. Then heading out to the /aut/ bar which was, well, weird (one friend commented on the fact that all the upstairs bartenders were straight, after complaining his drink was really weak). And the Necto always seems to be a fun time, especially since I'm usually plastered by the time I get there. Necto is a great place to watch the guys you wanted to make out with in college make out with each other.

It was all so fun and so effortless, it was just like the old days, plus Ann Arbor is so pretty, Once again I found myself thinking about why I can't really find equilibrium here in Detroit, and I started to worry about the ways in which I think Detroit has changed me. When I'm in A2 with my friends it's a fun hanging out thing, but when I'm here I feel like it's all about how can we change our section of the world, there's a lot of trying hard and frustration along with the intermittent fun successes.

On the one hand, how can any imaginitive person not try and do stuff when presented with what is essentially a blank canvas? But on the other hand, sometimes it's just nice to hang out and booze up with your friends who all think they're comediennes (and kind of are) and enjoy the nice things in the world around you.

I was telling some friends about it the other night and the verdict was that this is pretty much my problem. Apparently I need to rebalance my priorities.

I just want fame and fortune like everyone else, is that so wrong? I just want a fun mellow home base too.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hang in there. More fun gays will come to Detroit. MMF.

Content Detroiter said...

I found that the key to enjoying Detroit is to find an amazing historic home in a good neighborhood, improve the house and your surroundings, find the ammenities you like, appreciate them and forget about all the lost potential that surrounds your home and neighborhood. Really, we got all the ammenities - decent restaurants, decent grocers in and near the city, good people, good culture. That seems to work, that is, until some dip shit leader squanders any further potential with crappy policies, which seems to happen often round these parts...

Ed said...

Content Detroiter has a point and I guess I'm guilty of the same situtation. But I tend to think of it in different terms. There are good and wonderful things in most cities and we're lucky to have access to them all. We are not limited to one city. That is the art of living well and luckily gay people do that part really well. If living in Detroit and visiting Ann Arbor makes you happy, live in Detroit and visit Ann Arbor more often. One city does not have to equal the other in terms of what kinds of happiness they bring. And to bring this lengthy post to an end, I'll paraphrase Auntie Mame. "Life is a banguet and some poor fools are starving to death. I want to live!"

Matt said...

Living in Detroit (or almost anywhere in SE Mich these days) has plenty of challenges, but don't give up. Without people like you, nothing would ever change. Keep up the fight and don't let the negativity get to you.

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